Once you have decided on the requirements, turn on your imagination and try to present a “portrait” of your man. Where and how he lives, what he does, what he is interested in, how he spends his time? Maybe you might be interested in Detroit singles? But the most important thing is to imagine what place in his life he gives to a woman and what demands he can impose on her. And now assess whether you are ready to meet these requirements.
A man, like you, gets acquainted not in order to give something, but in order to receive something from close relationships. And just like you, reserves the right to choose and to be capricious. What are you ready to offer him instead of what you want to get for yourself? Warmth, affection, care, support, attention, assessment, sense of importance? What else? Is it enough? Are you really ready to give him what he wants, what he dreams about? And not once, but all the time!
Some women believe that beauty and sexuality are enough to attract a man, to hold him and to build stable relationships. In order to just attract, it is really enough sometimes, but to hold on to it, sexuality alone is not enough. Certainly, there are men who are guided exclusively by sexual motives in the most serious, even in business matters. But they lost everything long ago, if they had something. It is unlikely that you will be interested in such men. A real man should think first of all with his head! If you found the desires and tastes of your imaginary chosen one unrealistic for you, go back to the first point, try to soften your requirements and imagine another man – with less stringent criteria for choosing a life partner.
Decide on your wishes and requirements
Try to visualize clearly what you want from your relationship with the man. Prioritize and determine what is the main criterion for your choice, and what you are ready to give in and accept compromise options. His financial and social situation? Maybe you need Charleston singles? Mind? Energetic? Sexual fatigue? Age and external data? Or maybe something else? To what extent should these qualities be present in your “candidate”?
Aren’t the qualities that you want to see in a man fundamentally incompatible? If you look for something that is not in nature, your searches are initially doomed to failure, and you will only waste your nerves and time. Set real goals for yourself! This, by the way, is not only about correspondence dating. How many men have you met at work, on the street, in transport? Thousands? Tens of thousands? Hundreds? How many men have you met and talked to? And so far you have not met the only one. It’s okay, life goes on. But for some reason, many women give up after the first unsuccessful attempt of virtual acquaintance and start to consider this way unpromising.
Internet is a democratic environment. There is no censorship or control there. That is why there is no guarantee and there can be no guarantee that you will not face vulgarity, lies, boorishness and trivial indifference, covered with beautiful words and pictures. However, as in real life. But in real life, you do not go to the monastery after disappointment from an unsuccessful acquaintance! You make more and more new attempts to find your “half”.
Finding that one is a serious purposeful work. The Internet is not a lottery or a magic country where your desires are fulfilled by yourself, but only an opportunity to expand your search from a narrow circle of direct contacts to the level of world scale. More contacts – more chances! Well, what if it does not work? Weeks, months pass, men do not write and do not answer? So, you have made a mistake somewhere. Read these recommendations from the beginning, from the first point to the last.